Have you started to see your child take new steps toward independence? This might be crawling or walking for a younger child or toileting, dressing or eating with independence for an older child. One of the major developmental tasks of early childhood is beginning to move away from the primary caregiver in order to explore the world. Amazingly, this happens most successfully within the context of a secure, loving attachment relationship. This relationship respects the incredible capabilities of the young children and trusts that learning will unfold in each child's perfect timing.
Janet Lansbury shares this vignette from one of her toddler play groups: A Jar Not Opened: Babies Solving Problems
Janet writes, "Children need the opportunity to solve problems on their own. It is counter-intuitive to refrain from assisting a child. Infants and toddlers need time to follow their natural curiosity and interest, which can only happen when they are engaged in uninterrupted, self-directed play. But if parents and caregivers can believe in a child's capabilities, and if they can let a child work to figure things out and even allow for frustration and failure, then the child will show us that she is indeed capable of more than we can imagine."