At Harmony we recognize that our own parenting practices often fall as a direct replication or polar opposite of the patterns we were raised in. A generation ago parenting practices were authoritarian and tended to rely on punishment and shame. For this reason, many of today’s parents have pushed far in the other direction.
To Payne’s point, a Polite Dictatorship offers children the warmth and respect he or she needs to develop a healthy sense of self. However, it also offers children the security of knowing that parents and caregivers are unquestionably in charge. This balanced confident leadership helps children to feel safe with in the structure of the family while also learning to self-regulate impulses, emotions and behavior.