Kim John Payne, in Simplicity Parenting, speaks to the idea of soul fever in our children. He describes soul fever as the emotional equivalent of a physical fever. “When small (or large) stresses accumulate, you may find your child with a soul fever…They are ‘out of sorts,' not at their best (and quite possibly at their worst) – and they may seem stuck in that frustrated state." Kim suggests that we notice this and take it as seriously as a physical fever – slowing down, drawing the child near, suspending normal routine in order to give the child the calm and safe space to untangle their ‘emotional knot’ – to return to their best, most balanced self.”
It is only when we stop filling all the blank spaces that our children will learn how to breathe,
how to slow down, how to re-calibrate and regain their balance.